that the ideas in that poem are not true. It is time for a paradigm
shift. It is time for moms to proudly proclaim our kindness.
been careful to cultivate a close relationship with my children, so it’s
natural for us to let each other know where we are at all times.
children are interesting people who spend time with other interesting
people, and I am enriched by knowing the people my children choose to
include in their lives. I don’t impose arbitrary limits on when they
must be home, because I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me.
I am in
such awe over the magnificent bodies that house my children that I treat
them with reverence and care. I would certainly never strike them, and I
would do anything in my power to protect them from physical harm.
encourage them to have minds of their own and empower them to do exactly
what their hearts desire. I do not desire blind obedience. Although I am
always available to give them input and talk anything through with them,
my children think for themselves and make their own decisions.
sure they have clean, comfortable clothing that they like. I trust them
to know their own bodies and to decide when they need a shower and a
change of clothing. I am always available to help make bath time more
comfortable and enjoyable for them if they need that from me.
children are aware of our family budget. If they want something that is
more expensive than what we have budgeted for, we brainstorm to find
ways to work together as a team to get them what they desire. My hope is
that for the rest of their lives, they will remember that there is
always a way to meet their needs and desires rather than settling for
whatever someone puts in front of them.
my children notice that I treat them differently than their friends are
treated by their parents. I am loving, patient, and kind. They are
grateful for this.
want my children to develop self-control, I let them control their own
bed times and wake times. I lovingly tuck them in and lay with them to
help them go to sleep when they want me to. I give them input when
needed about when they might want to go to bed if they have chosen an
early-morning activity. Bedtime is a peaceful, bonding time, one that
never includes any yelling, threatening, tears, or punishment.
children and I spend much of our days working and playing together.
Sometimes, we cook healthy, interesting foods and listen to audio books
or have interesting conversations while washing dishes and organizing
bedrooms. However, I never force them to do a chore they don’t want to
do. I want them to help me when and if they are doing it from a willing,
joyful place within themselves. I don’t want to encourage bitterness and
resentment in our relationship.
I stay awake at night thinking up interesting, world-expanding
activities that we can do together. I get so excited when I am able to
help them pursue something that is important to them.
always truthful with my children, and because they see me as their
partner rather than their punisher, they have no reason to lie to me.
teenage years are a special joy because we’ve maintained our close
relationship. Whenever my teens want to share their joys or frustrations
with me, I’m there to listen without judgment and give my advice when
they ask for it. I also value their wisdom and ask their opinions
optional for my children. I honor the fact that they would rather learn
outside the confines of an institution, learning by pursuing their
individual passions with joy. My children have never had to lie or
pretend to be sick in order to get out of a day of school.
judge them or grade them. I trust that as they follow their individual
paths, they are growing and learning the things that they have the need
to know, at a pace that is perfect for them. They know that the only one
who is worthy of judging how they are learning and growing is
shame my children. They respect me because I respect them.
children know I believe that success is not about having the highest
degrees or paychecks. Rather, it is about following one’s heart and
finding joy in life. It doesn’t matter whether they choose to serve in
the armed forces or join in a protest parade or riot, as long as they
are following the calling of their hearts.
that I would not be respecting my children if I forced religion or
education onto them. Rather, I encourage them to be honest with
themselves about what is true to them rather than asking them to conform
to what someone else believes they should think.
I stand a
little taller, and I am filled with pride when my children tell me I’m
the kindest mother in the world.